Signs You Haven’t Moved On From Your “Ex”…
The process of breaking up with Your “Ex” isn’t easy at all,Also the feelings that come after the break can be very painful and disastrous,here is some signs that you still not over your “Ex”
Friends or Friends with Benefits
One of the signs that you still think about your Ex is that you can be Friends or Friends with Benefits,that is a huge mistake and you just kidding yourself.Also being each other friend is a good idea in theory but emotionally you probably calling the same person and trying to connect with him physically,
The best but the hardest way is to take some time to grieve and let your mind experience the loss
You still don’t know what went wrong
When you’re still working through your break-up, your picture of what went wrong can be pretty lopsided. Sometimes you just get stuck in the shock and you stay confused. You say things like, I didn’t see it coming, everything seemed fine, I had no idea, and you stay lost and sometimes your picture of what led to your break-up looks a bit paint by numbers because you’re not really brave enough yet to face some of the finer details.
So you say things like I always pick the wrong guys, she never really grew up or he must be having a mid life crisis. You let yourself off the hook and you stay in the dark.
When you’ve really done your break-up work, you’ve got a picture of what happened that includes both of your faults and failings. You can see how you let each other down, and you can see how the odds might have been stacked against both of you. If you can’t clearly see what went wrong between you, then you’re missing a map of the past that has enough detail to help you find your way to a better future.
You’re stuck in the guilt-game
A break-up, like all transitions, is an opportunity to learn about yourself and grow. Unfortunately, because most people have a difficult time tolerating emotional pain, the ego steps in and turns to obsessing about why the break-up occurred, either blaming everything on your partner or yourself.While staying stuck in blame or guilt does achieve the ego’s goal of keeping you in your head and thus, separate from your pain, neither of these negative mind maneuvers are productive toward the ultimate goal of a break-up, which is to grieve the loss to completion, and learn whatever you can about yourself. By doing these two actions, you till the soil that will prepare you to receive your next relationship on healthy ground.
Most of the people knows that with love comes the risk of loss and the risk of being hurt. And we also know that we’re wired for love, that no matter how many times you’ve been hurt, you’ll likely try again at some point.
It’s so much better to try again with a clear heart, which means taking the time to attend to your pain from your break-up and learn your lessons so that you can welcome in your new partner without the past impinging on the present.
Keep Moving Forward